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Sharing – Why It’s Okay to Not Be Okay: Tips for Telling Someone You’re Struggling

ByMikeM Reading Time: 1 minute

We tell people to reach out when they are struggling, but we often leave out some of the details. Like who to talk to and how to talk about it. Mitchell Olson has some ideas:

“Telling someone you trust that you’re struggling can be scary, but it can also be incredibly helpful for your mental health. By choosing someone you trust, finding the right time and place, and being honest and direct, you can open up a pathway to healing and growth. Remember that it’s okay to not be okay and that seeking help is a sign of strength.”

There are more details in the article below. I cannot emphasize enough how difficult it is to talk about our struggles. We should never take that lightly. We should also never take lightly how much trust and vulnerability it takes for someone to choose us as the person they want to talk to about their mental health.

Don’t take that for granted and please do not take that with anything less than the utmost seriousness. Dismissing someone who is talking about their mental health is a great way to make sure they don’t talk to anyone ever again.

Don’t be the person who causes that.

https://mindfullyhealing.com/why-its-okay-to-not-be-okay-tips-for-telling-someone-youre-struggling/

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