Shared Links (weekly) Nov. 5 2023
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The War on Suicide Is Making Things Worse– An interesting look at how forcible committing someone might make things worse.
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Link – How to Use Writing to Ease Your Depression
Do you find that writing helps? I have been writing online for a long time, and I find that it helps keep me creative, focused, and continuously learning. When I write about technology all of that holds true, and when I write about child abuse and mental health, it keeps me focused on my own…
The Other Mental Health Crisis – Older Men
I don’t think we are on a path to create that world. I think a world where human beings are valued based on how much money they make and how “strong” they are does not even care if older men are lost. They feel like a burden because society treats them like one. How much could they contribute to our community if we didn’t think that way? If we had a community that involved them instead of isolating them, and a healthcare system that didn’t cause people to go bankrupt because they grew old and became sick, perhaps we’d find out.
Sharing – Why Siblings Can Have Different Childhoods And Impressions Of Their Parents
The article below describes how this can happen, mostly focused on several factors. One, things change. The family’s circumstances change over the years, your parents change over the years, and so an older or younger sibling might have been raised differently than we were. Also, we are different. Some kids’ personalities mesh differently with their parents compared to their siblings. That’s all pretty normal.
I want to talk about childhood abuse, especially why it can seem like our siblings don’t understand when we tell them about our abuse. One of the things that becomes clear as you read the link is that kids might grow up in the same biological family but not necessarily in the same circumstances.
Sharing – People Aren’t ‘Addicted’ to Wearing Masks, They’re Traumatized
‘ve been describing it to friends and coworkers as “the inability to just turn off the fear of other people and their germs”. Because, in some ways, that’s exactly what it was. I’ve spent a year plus barely leaving my house. Sure, I worked from home even before the pandemic, but it’s an extreme sport now, going into the back yard is an adventure into a strange and exotic place, let alone being around other people.
Yesterday, however, I did manage to get out and meet up with a friend and former coworker. I won’t say it wasn’t awkward. But, it wasn’t as awkward as my anxiety had built it up in my head, mostly because I think we both knew it was awkward, and went out of our way to figure out what we were comfortable with. We met in the office building where she works, wearing masks. She asked if I wanted to keep being masked walking to lunch, and we agreed to not, and to sit outside to be safer. And she asked before giving me a hug after lunch.
It was an important lesson to me, that we need to navigate this together with the people we care about, and meet them at the level where they are comfortable. It’s not about racing to be the most “normal” group, it’s about making sure everyone comes along, and is comfortable, because we’ve all dealt with various levels of trauma over the last 14-15 months, trauma that will show up in a variety of ways. There’s nothing wrong with people who are slower to feel comfortable, they are just doing what they can. I’d rather meet them where they are, and where I am, than not see them at all anymore, or shame them about their own hesitation. It’s not a race.
Shared Links (weekly) April 3, 2022
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The Importance of Mental Health During Sexual Assault Awareness Month
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To understand our nation’s mental health crisis, look no further than the emergency department
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5 ways college instructors can help students take care of their mental health
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How Medical Trauma and Chronic Illness Trigger My Childhood Trauma
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I Just Unfollowed Hundreds of People on Social Media – Here’s Why You Should, Too – “There are so many good, empowering, accounts out there. There’s no need to follow people who make you feel less-than.”
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If we all talked about suicide, wouldn’t that be better for everyone?
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Link – How to Support a Friend or Loved One Who Has Been Sexually Abused
This is a really good description of what I have heard referred to as “sitting with their pain”. ““Don’t let your own feelings of anger or sadness get in the way of you being there for your partner,” Ms. Engel said. Getting angry, even at the person who did this to your friend or loved…
