The “Too Long Don’t Read” synopsis really says it all, but read the whole thing anyway:
“TLDR: Their brain is protecting them from the life-altering consequences of acknowledging the reality.”
Do you know the one thing I wish I never had to think about? Child abuse. It sucks. There’s no way to think about it and not feel a little sick. There’s no way for me to find out that someone I know was abused as a child and not be angered by that. There’s no way for that disclosure not to be painful for me.
It’s also true that many of us would do just about anything not to feel that pain, and guess what? If I could convince myself that maybe it didn’t really happen, I could go on without feeling it.
Knowing that a child is being abused comes with a lot of consequences. When it’s your own child, that reality absolutely becomes life-changing. Not everyone can cope with that much life change and pain, but it’s no excuse for dismissing child abuse. We have to make it easier for people to believe it when a child discloses abuse and we don’t get there by not talking about it or hiding our collectiv heads in the sand because it’s such a downer.
It is a downer, it’s horrible, and no one wants to think about it, but imagine how much worse it is when it not only happens to you, but no one will believe you or keep you safe.