You’re not being kind, you are blaming people for a ton of things that are completely beyond their control, because your own identify is tied to a world-view that has no explanation for suffering beyond “welp, guess you failed at being positive”.
That’s not a world-view, that’s a privileged, self-centered, view.
I can’t remember the last time I had many of those little incidental interactions. Once upon a time they were frequent, multiple times a day. Now?
Yeah, not as much. which is why we need to try and create some of these interactions, even if they can’t always be in person. A few texts back and forth, a quick call, a chat with coworkers on our messaging platform, laughter with the people you do see, etc.
I miss the interactions I used to have, there’s no doubt about that, but I am trying, not always successfully, to make sure I still manage to create some. I know how vital that connectedness is for my own mental health.
I also know I’m not alone in that.
I found this entire article to be really interesting, because what child abuse survivor doesn’t struggle with this exact thing in one form or another? “The hardest part of recovering from a toxic childhood isn’t just coping with the fact that your emotional needs weren’t met or that you were actively neglected or even marginalized,…
Kevin has put together what he’s calling the “The Best Mental Health Blogs We’ve Found (So Far)” over on the Blunt-Therapy website.
He was kind enough to list this little blog among the 49 blogs that are already listed, and he’s taking suggestions for more.
If 2020 has taught us anything, it’s that we really need more information, education, and support, when it comes to mental health. Maybe consider checking out his list, following these bloggers on social media of through email or RSS subscriptions, and spend some quality time finding better mental health?
I also want to point out that this sense of being enough, having an internal sense of self and worth, is an important part of keeping children safe. Kids constantly on the lookout for external validation, are easier targets for grooming and abuse.
How would you develop this sense of self in yourself? I have some ideas, but I want to hear from all of you too.
You can read the article below for suggestions of things you should give yourself credit for. Then it’s up to you to understand how much you really do accomplish, even in the face of COVID-19, violence, and mass uncertainty.
Her list might even spark some ideas for some other, small, things you can do, and then give yourself credit for doing.
What are you giving yourself credit for today?
