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Sharing – Can I Just Tell You: With So Much To Mourn, We Must Allow Time To Grieve
One of the things I learned in 2019, and saw repeated over and over again in 2020-21, was that there are a lot of people who are so uncomfortable with the idea of death, that they become almost unbearable to be around when you are grieving yourself. They are so uncomfortable with grief, that they really, really need you to get over your grief so that they don’t have to feel uncomfortable anymore.
It’s a weakness. One that cuts people off from their own emotions, whether it be hurt, pain, anger or grief. It hurts people, all in the name of someone else’s comfort.
We see it when people complain about child abuse public service announcements, put in the “required” time at a funeral, avoid people they know dealing with mental health issues, and so on. And it’s not going to change, until it’s them or someone they care enough about to make an effort to get past their own discomfort.
Or, maybe it won’t change. Maybe they’ll continue to isolate themselves from anyone who is hurting. That’s a choice, one any of us is free to make.
Or we can choose to allow people to hurt, and grieve, and simply be with them. Simply care more about that other person than our own discomfort.
Link – The sad reason dads are scared to seek mental health help
“A conversation with Leith Erikson, founder of Australian Brotherhood of Fathers (ABF), left me troubled. ABF started four years ago to attend family courts and connect with men in crisis. A series of awareness protests are running in Sydney, Brisbane, and Melbourne. “Men are too scared to ask for support when they need it most,”…
John Oliver Takes a Look at Mental Health Care in the US
I wanted to share this with you because John Oliver makes some important points about how we have made so many strides in acceptance and encouraging people that it is OK to ask for help, and then the system doesn’t provide it. Sadly things have gotten so bad that we’re trying just about anything, and even the technology isn’t living up to the hype.
Real people with real needs are left with nowhere to turn. A society that claims to care about people cannot accept that status quo.
Sharing – Simple social rituals like eye contact and small talk are psychologically powerful
If you’re like me and don’t want to be open to lengthy conversations with strangers, this article is good news. Even small connections, a smile, a nod, or a pleasant “hello,” have mental health benefits.
It might also remind us of the humanity of the people around us. There are worse things.
Sharing – I’m tired of people telling me to go and get therapy?-it’s not that simple
As she goes on to say in the post below, when someone needs help, and needs support, simply telling them to get therapy and going about your own life not thinking about that conversation again is not enough. We have to recognize that therapy may not be available for them, or it may be quite a long time before they can get therapeutic help. What do they do until then? What can we do, as a society, to make mental health care more accessible to everyone? Because right now, it’s not accessible to a very large number of people who need it.
Link – I’ll Get Strong With A Little Help From My Friends
Meeting with others on a regular basis builds strength and resilience in our Mental Health. Friends build each other up to be strong. Part of the reason that I knew traveling for a living was always going to be a temporary thing was this reality. For five years I had only somewhat regular contact with…
