Faith Allen recently did a series of posts about telling friends about your abuse history. Topics ranged from who to tell, what to tell, and how to handle it if things go poorly. There’s also lots of really good discussion in the comments on each post.
To see the series, scroll down to the bottom of this page, and start reading the posts from the bottom up, be sure to click through the comments as well!
Over at the Foundation for Survivors of Abuse, they’ve started up a podcast. The first episode description: Deondra Brown Nielsen, of The 5 Browns, opens up regarding the sexual abuse she suffered at the hands of her father. Along side her husband Kevin Nielsen, they discuss the prosecution of Deondra’s father, how they teach their…
Last weekend’s US Army monthly newsletter covered a December 2011 article regarding sexual abuse in the US Military and whether any progress is forthcoming over the issue. If the link can be separated from the newsletter you should be able to read it here. Otherwise if this link ever fails, go to “Politico”‘s index page,…
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Survivors Manchester have put together a guide for male survivors. As they describe it: The Survivors Guide Project aims to produce a unique self-help guide written by male survivors of sexual abuse and rape for male survivors and their supporters to aid understanding of the legacy effects and provide information on healthy coping mechanisms and…
Since you didn’t, and school isn’t allowed to, teach them someone else will. It might be online or in person, but there is nothing more attractive to real pedophiles than kids who lack the basic skills and open communication with adults to tell on them.
Kids who are aware of their bodies and their place in the world can openly talk about sex with trusted and safe adults, understand what it means to be LGBTQ in some basic fashion and what to do when someone makes them feel threatened, making for poor targets. That’s not grooming; that’s teaching them basic self-defense. That’s teaching them the truth and the basics of reality.
I know a lot of supporters and people in the child abuse community don’t want to hear this, but I will not stand by while we practice things that make children less safe. Lacking knowledge about these topics does that. You’re not protecting them. You’re endangering them.
Just for the balance of showing it’s not just America that has fundamentalist pressure groups, The Guardian carried an article in its Saturday 23rd June paper regarding a UK pressure group that think Gay Marriage will lead to incest, a great way to trivialise child abuse in general even further than wasting two years on a…
