This is a pretty good list of books that may be helpful for partners, parents, and even children with parents dealing with trauma. Take a look, and if you’ve read any of the books on the list, and want to recommend it, feel free to leave a review here!
http://traumadissociation.com/books-partners-family-ptsd-dissociative-abuse.html
If you’re a regular user of Tumblr, or of Flipboard, you can now follow us there as well. If you are a Flipboard user on your iPhone or iPad, you can now get all the content from this site, as well as various links that I share throughout the week, in the Child Abuse Survivors…
That’s the take-away from this more recent study. We cannot point to childhood trauma as the explanation for all mental health issues in adulthood. Sometimes, it is a contributing factor. Sometimes, it isn’t. Mental Health is much more complicated. There is no simple explanation for why it happens, and there’s no simple explanation for why it’s been getting worse. Beware those who want to paint all mental health issues with the same brush. Human beings are a bit more complicated than that.
When one teenager reported child sexual abuse by a trusted adult, and the English Crown Prosecution Service (DA) told the offender, Robert Daley, that the case would be dropped, it led to his murder planned by the 15 year old victim and aided by a male friend of the same age after Daley called the…
I’ve seen many mentions recently about anxiety being a normal response to our current world. This is also a contradiction to what much of the self-help and positivity industry would tell us. Spend any time on social media and you’ll see plenty of messages about gratitude, finding joy and purpose, and the silver lining in any situation.
What you won’t hear is that there are situations that SHOULD make you angry, anxious, and sad. But there are.
We can, and should, do everything we can to get out good information and share the truth about mental health issues. We can, and should, share our own stories of the mental health issues we’ve survived, especially those of us who have had many of these issues due to the trauma we suffered.
But that will never be enough for some people. Knowing the truth about these issues, and knowing what people need in terms of non-stigmatizing support won’t be enough to change their actual behavior. The very topic(s) will make them uncomfortable and they will act out of that discomfort instead of relying on what they know. They will put their own comfort above any consideration of how stigmatizing their actions and words are because they simply cannot handle even the slightest discomfort in their lives.
That is their weakness, not ours.
This is a powerful statement.
“Relationships are at the root of mental health in every way.”
For abuse survivors, we know this, even if we don’t always think about it. It’s the damage from abuse at the hands of another person that has such a huge impact on our mental health. It’s the reason when we talk about it occurring at the hands of a family member of loved one that other people struggle to believe us. That the relationship would be the source of abuse is unthinkable to people with good relationships.
But, we can also turn that statement on it’s head as well. It’s relationships that can undo that mental health damage that was done by abuse too.
