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Sharing – Here’s why you should make a habit of having more fun
ByMikeM February 9, 2023February 8, 2026 Reading Time: 3 minutes

In Louisiana, we are headed into the heart of Mardi Gras season. This is the time to do things just for fun. It might be tradition or about being connected to your krewe, but it’s mostly about fun. Life is too short not to make some time for having fun. With all the negative things out there, it might be imperative that we find that time in our current world. Without it, we are all fairly miserable. We can take a break from “all of this” and have fun. It’s what makes putting up with the rest of it worthwhile.

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Sharing – What Is Secondary Trauma?
ByMikeM February 8, 2023February 7, 2023 Reading Time: 1 minute

When I started on this, I didn’t realize I’d be doing these sessions in the wake of layoffs and the middle of a bunch of other changes impacting these folks. Suddenly the conversation about their career goals has turned into a conversation about the trauma of going through a layoff.

As I mentioned to someone recently, this was more emotional labor than I had anticipated.

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Reviews Elsewhere – 9 Of The Best Books For Social Skills Improving your life
ByMikeM February 6, 2023February 5, 2023 Reading Time: 1 minute

Growing up, I was timid and socially awkward. There are other reasons for this, but let’s be honest, hiding my secrets and being much too busy surviving to bother with learning social skills played a big role. I had to learn later in life; even at age 54, I’m still learning. If you find yourself in the same situation, perhaps one of these could help. If you know of a teen or child, who could use some help with social skills, there are items on the list for them too.

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Sharing – The Way We Show Up
ByMikeM February 3, 2023January 26, 2026 Reading Time: 1 minute

How we show up for other people matters. We can provide that place of safety in which they can heal and flourish. Too often, we don’t, though. We don’t know what to do, so we don’t show up. We don’t understand the importance of showing up, even if it’s not perfect, just to let people know that they are not alone in difficult situations. Everything is harder when you go through it alone, so show up for your people.

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Reviews Elsewhere – The Gap and the Gain by Dr. Benjamin Hardy
ByMikeM February 1, 2023January 31, 2023 Reading Time: 2 minutes

If this gap feeling describes where you are in your healing, turn your gaze around from looking at the goal and how far it may be to how much further along you are on that path than you were 1, 3, or 5 years ago.

You might be surprised by how far you’ve come in that time. You might even take a moment to feel proud of yourself.

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Two Part Series on Healing the Shame of Child Sexual Abuse
ByMikeM January 30, 2023January 30, 2023 Reading Time: 1 minute

You have to see what happened for what it is. That includes seeing that it was a decision made by someone else and not something you deserved or attracted to yourself in any way. You were a child. Your abuser made a decision to abuse you sexually. That’s the truth of it.

That is the start of healing.

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